Can you define the self-love? What about self-care? I’m sure many of you can give brilliant explanations but how many of you practice self-love and self-care? I will be honest and admit that I have struggled with self-love, and until a couple of years ago I had no idea what self-care meant.
Self-care is:

appreciation for oneself.” It is having compassion for yourselfwhile relating to yourself it does not involve harshly judging or punishing yourself for every mistake you make, or every time someone does better than you.”

Self-care can be considered a component of self-love.
Self-care is:

taking time to pay attention to you, not in a narcissistic way, but in a way that ensures that you are being cared for by you.”

Recently, I sat down with spoken word artist and poet Nequa Profacy* for episode #2 of “A Mental break with Delano.” We discussed the connection between mental health and self-love and self-care. She was gracious enough to perform a powerful piece entitled “Glow.”

Click the link below to listen to our conversation. You can listen to the episode on all platforms where podcasts are available. Please leave a comment, a review or a rating so, I can continue improving the quality and content of the podcast.




Glow by Nequa Profacy 

You know the ground supposed to glow when you walk girl

The devil supposed to tremble when you talk

See you bad,right

So they supposed to be mad, right

Cause ain’t no light in defeat

So you just keep marching left and right with your feet

Even if you have to mumble your prayers at night when you sleep

You will glow here 

Like fireworks

You be queen even if you be hired work

I said you be queen

Always low key

And when you’re in the scene

You try not to be see 

But please

If you’re going to be seen

Be someone worth seeing

If you’re going to be someone

Be someone worth being

What state of mind do you be in

What Pandora station is your heart beating

Let them know you need not to be reminded of who you be

That since birth you knew that you be queen

I mean 


Don’t it seem like you were almost  destined to fail

But you see failure really isn’t an option

You just know it all too well

Life ain’t always worth living 

But the reason you ain’t give in

Is cause it’s one really good story to tell

Let them know that you not about being frail 

You’re not about waiting to exhale 

Or waiting for a Knight

Waiting for someone to treat you right

You not about waiting for someone to appreciate your mind

Waiting for them to not waste your time

Because they not even out here trying to save their own lives

That means you fight the fight for yourself

And you see beauty and potential in yourself

Because if no one else will 

You gotta love yourself

Girls like you 

Just trying to make your momma proud

I know they look at you when you come around

But it’s not every day we see women wearing crowns

Not every day we see women loving ourselves for who we really are

Cause when you wake up flawless

That’s your first flaw

Let them know that you woke up like this 

That situation’s made you tough like this

That you know all too well of broken hearts and yearning love 

Love so far gone it burning

That you keep some things to yourself

That you may have cried yourself to sleep last night but today you rose wishing

And may I say 

Your glow up was amazing

I’m glad you made it

But tell me 

Why you look like that

Oh I get it

You didn’t think that people would book like that 

I know that you expected more

Thought that you would be worth waiting around for

Cause now the ground glows where you go girl

So let them know

Let me know when they missed out on

That you be queen

You be paradox 

You be goddess

You be light

You be life birthing life

That you be free

Unapologetically in love with your own reflection 

Using god as your protection 

That you be paradise 

As much as possible

You see you’re the hardest to love 

But a love worth working for 

A woman with waiting for

And a women worth praying for

So ode 

Let’s take an ode to the nights that we spend alone

In our own space 

And our own home

To the nights we sit 

And the nights we sit and soak

Cause you know in order to glow

You don’t wait for the light at the end

You be the light 

Within your tunnel 

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